My kids are pretty good eaters. They are getting a little more fussy as they are getting older but from the age of 5 months, when they started on solids, to 2 years they were incredible eaters and it made my job as a mum so much easier. I think we have been pretty lucky with
them that they do eat a wide range of food and perhaps it is just luck but I
put it down to a book I read on advice from a Mothercraft Nurse that we used a
few times in the first year of the twins lives. The book is called “Baby-led
Weaning” and it is written by Gill Rapley and Tracey Murkett.
The main idea of the concept is that from 6
months on children can be given appropriate finger food that they can feed
themselves and that they do not need to be given pureed, spoon-fed food. The idea is from 6 months old the child
is part of family mealtime, they can eat most of the same food that the rest of
the family is eating, and they feed themselves.
Baby-led weaning:
* allows
babies to explore taste, texture, colour and smell
*
encourages independence and confidence
* helps to
develop their hand-eye coordination and chewing skills
* makes
picky eating and mealtime battles less likely
I had started giving my twins solids (in
the form of puree’s) at 5 months so by the time they were 6 months old this
appealed to me for a number of reasons.
- It meant that I didn’t have to
puree, freeze, etc anymore and that I could pretty much just cook one meal that
we would all be able to eat.
- My husband and I eat with the
kids at 5pm anyway so it made sense to be all eating together and eating the
same thing.
- My girls were starting to want
to feed themselves and weren’t happy being spoonfed.
As another bonus it has also been suggested that allowing a child to feed themselves from a young age and offering finger food promotes development of the muscles of the mouth, which may help a child with their speech development.
It’s quite a jump to go from pureeing and
spoon feeding to finger food and giving your 6-month-old total control of
feeding themselves, and it is a very messy experience. I can completely see why
people wouldn’t want to do it. This might be one of those rare times when not
being a neat freak worked in my favour.
You may be thinking that the meals that
both babies and adults can eat must be pretty limited but there are some great
cookbooks out there with plenty of ideas, including The Baby-led Weaning
Cookbook.
I may sound like I work for the authors of
Baby-led Weaning but I don’t! I
just found that this worked for me. My kids started to enjoy eating and are
generally not fussy eaters. One of my twins will eat anything (and that may be
genetic from her father), the other has become a little more fussy as a
toddler.
When she started getting fussy and was
sometimes refusing dinner I trawled through a variety of toddler parenting
books and discovered some good pieces of advice. One of the best things to
remember is not to get too caught up in it. Meals should not be a stressful
time for you or your child. You
really can’t force a child to eat. All you can do is offer a variety of healthy
food throughout the day. A child’s appetite (just like an
adults) goes up and down. I would strongly advise against offering your toddler
different meals in one sitting until you find something they like. I would
suggest giving them their entire meal (whatever you plan for them to eat,
including any fruit or yoghurt) at the start of the meal time and letting them
go for it. Make it clear that that is what they are getting to eat and that if they don't want it there aren't any other options. Otherwise they will constantly be waiting for something better, and you won't get to relax and enjoy mealtimes either. You don't have to eat at the same time as your child/ren if it doesn't suit but try sitting down and chatting over dinner no matter how old your kids are.
Mealtimes should be a happy time and hopefully some of this advice will help make mealtimes fun (albeit a bit messy) at your place too!